We all get stressed out when we think about our future. The kind of questions that comes to our mind is like what will happen? What if something I don’t want happens in my life? Worrying about tomorrow never stops, right? But what is the point behind stressing about something we are not sure about, and we know nothing about.
The feeling or the urge to know what’s written in our future never goes away. The need for The Art Of Getting What You Want in your life never stops. As human beings, we desire things we want, and it can be in any way: Career, personality, life, and relationships, but do you think that these are the things that make us feel complete in our life?
WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM YOUR CAREER?
Tell me have you ever met someone who is not worried about their career? I bet you haven’t because we all want to be successful, rich, and famous. Who wants a normal life? Right! But ask a question to yourself right now Can you afford to have a not-so-normal life while laying on your bed or scrolling down on your social media apps? I think that is the worst choice you can choose to live your life as you dream of and planned in your imagination or fantasize about. Have you ever planted a seed and saw it grown in a huge big tree overnight?
Now you definitely must be wondering what am I talking about? This is the confusion we have in our mind whenever we think about our careers and, In my opinion, I have never met someone who has thought about their career or made choices about their career in a second because that is not the reality. Life is different in reality. You can’t choose a path overnight.
To be honest, I am not intimidating you, but I am making you aware of the reality. You know the choices we make a difference in our life or lifestyle. Whichever career you choose, choose it wisely. Never take a step immediately just because everyone around you is doing something great or big in their life and I know at that point of time, theirs always one question that comes to our mind I want to have a life that is the same as they have, or I want to create a life where I will be able to have everything I want or need.
Most of the time people decide their careers because people of their age have decided what they want in their life and the question at that point of time that comes to our mind is that Why I am not yet sure about what I want to do in my life?
The whole point behind my blabbering is that give yourself enough time to think about what you want your career to be and what your career should look like because when I was in my school, I want to be an architect rather than be a writer, and you know why? Because I felt that profession look so cool, and I want to do this, but when I completed my school, I realized that is this is not how we decide our future.
Give yourself some time and write about things you love or loved doing when you were a kid or a teenager. I always loved writing when I was a teenager and I never wrote anything with a mindset that I will be a writer in the future and that’s how one day I realized my love for writing and that this is the only thing that makes me happy and calm.
And if you haven’t still decided on your career then I would tell you to chill and relax. This is just a phase in your life and one day all of a sudden you will realize what you love to do, and I am sure that will be your first step towards your career.
HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR PERSONALITY?
I know you must have heard about this quote – FIRST IMPRESSION IS THE LAST IMPRESSION and I don’t believe in this quote because everyone deserves a second chance. Personality plays a big role in all of our life because it is something that tells us about others’ vibe they have around us. Sometimes it is positive or sometimes it is negative. Personality is the first thing we notice in someone and that leaves a big impact on us, sometimes we get amused, or sometimes we get irritated. We should never judge anyone by their first impression because we don’t know who they are or what if they are going through a bad phase. We should give a second chance to everyone we met for the first time. We all wonder about how would I know if I have a great personality or what should I do to make a great personality. Personality is not only how we look or our appearance. The real definition of personality is confidence. You don’t need to have any degree to look confident or have an accent. Confidence is an art that can take you far in your life. If you know how to be confident in life, your degree, bank balance, language doesn’t matter. What matters is the way you speak, your choice of words, the way you handle yourself and your life situation speak about your personality. Learn to be confident in what you have, everything else will come directly towards you, and you don’t even need to force anything to have it.
WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM YOUR LIFE?
I always thought that reading books improves your vocabulary but when I started reading, I realized it teaches you a lot. You learn a lot about others and from others’ journeys or life experiences. Books are not only for improving or learning new words, it is much more than that. There will be many phases in your life when things will be very complicated around you, or you will find no solutions to deal with or cope with something, but that is not the end of your life. It is the beginning of the future, towards the next step in your life. There is nothing like the word PERFECT because no one has a perfect life. Life is the mixture of all the colors in the palette. You can’t build a perfect life in reality because that is impossible. There will be many phases when you will see many shades and some shades you won’t like, but that doesn’t mean you can skip them. You have to accept them too. Whatever you will get on your palette, you have to accept it. The only way to have a happy life is to live beyond the boundaries where you are not scared to fall or rise or try again and again. There is nothing that will make your life complete, but You need to learn to be happy with whatever you have in your life the only thing you can do to make yourself the happiest is to make the right choices, and you must be wondering how would I know if it is the right choice for me or not?
The only answer to this question is that no one knows what is the right choice for them if they don’t try.
And if that choice doesn’t work for you, try the next way. Don’t stop because you failed, because failure is the new win towards your goals. Learn from your own mistakes because you are your teacher in your life who will teach you, punish you and help you.
WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM A RELATIONSHIP?
Relationships are not a piece of cake that you will enjoy while eating. It will be going to take all types of emotions of yours. Some days will be good, and some days will be worst, the only thing that matters is how you handle them and if it is worth keeping or fighting for. You can’t run your relationship based on love because Love is not the only thing that matters in the relationship, it is a box of every emotion: fear, anger, love, sadness, happiness, fights, trust, and respect. A relationship doesn’t mean it is only with our lovers, it can be with anyone that can be our loved ones or with whom we work. They can be your colleagues, family, and friends too. Relationships with anyone will be going to give you stress and love both at the same time. Building a relationship is like planting a seed and turning it growing into a plant. It will take time to build and grow.
Compromising your happiness for the sake of a perfect relationship is not worth keeping. A relationship should not bound you, it should let you free. If something is bounding you in a boundary then that is not the right thing for you. Choose your family or partner wisely. Relationships should not make you feel you are restricted to follow your dreams or plan your life as you want. They can’t decide what you want in your life. It should support you, and sometimes they can have differences of opinion, but that doesn’t mean you should end it. A relationship should have boundaries, it should never interfere in your decision-making for your own life because that is your choice, you can know their opinion, but the choice should be always yours.
There will be many phases in your life when you will feel stuck and want to run away in the opposite direction, but that is not the way to live your life because there is no opposite direction eventually you will come to that place again and again if you don’t face it and run away from it, every time you will fell in it again. If you will not make mistakes, then who will? Learn this fact that everyone is going to judge you whatever you do, just do what makes you happy because who wants to sleep while being stressed. Right?
Don’t be afraid to take the step, be proud of trying and falling.